Another study documenting the chipping away of our common heritage, one name at at time:
Celebrities aren’t the only ones giving their babies unusual names. Compared with decades ago, parents are choosing less common names for kids, which could suggest an emphasis on uniqueness and individualism, according to new research.
Essentially, today’s kids (and later adults) will stand out from classmates. For instance, in the 1950s, the average first-grade class of 30 children would have had at least one boy named James (top name in 1950), while in 2013, six classes will be necessary to find only one Jacob, even though that was the most common boys’ name in 2007.
Refreshingly, and rayther surprisingly, the article goes on to note that the author of the research, San Diego State’s Jean Twenge, thinks this is not necessarily a good thing and may actually promote narcissism.
“The most compelling explanation left is this idea that parents are much more focused on their children standing out,” Twenge told LiveScience. “There’s been this cultural shift toward focusing on the individual, toward standing out and being unique as opposed to fitting in with the group and following the rules.”
The positive side of individualism, Twenge said, is that there is less prejudice and more tolerance for minority groups. But she warns that when individualism is taken too far, the result is narcissism.
“I think it is an indication of our culture becoming more narcissistic,” Twenge said.
Past research has shown that back in the 1950s parents placed a lot of importance on a child being obedient, which has gone way down. “Parenting has become more permissive and more child-focused and [parents] are much more reluctant to be authority figures,” Twenge said.
As for whether these unusually named kids will have personalities to match is not known.
“It remains to be seen whether having a unique name necessarily leads to narcissism later in life,” Twenge said. “If that unique name is part of a parent’s overall philosophy that their child is special and needs to stand out and that fitting in is a bad thing, then that could lead to those personality traits.”
Somebody once recommended to me that the best rule of thumb for choosing children’s names was to stick to popes and saints. Feeling that this is still a pretty wide net and that a kid named Innocent, Boniface or Mewrog would be just as likely to get beat up on the playground and to resent their moniker later in life as someone named Moon-Unit, Apple or Fuschia, I have always been much more hide-bound even than that.
For boys, I would never go beyond Robert, John, Charles, James or William. Perhaps Peter or Richard.
For girls, Katherine, Mary, Elizabeth, Anne, Caroline. Maybe Margaret.
(These are just my particular preferences, so certain persons near and dear to me can just put that rock back down and stop hyperventilating. Your results may vary, of course, and good luck to ye.)
Of names that have withstood the test of time like these, all I can say is that they’ll never be flashy, but then again they’ll never be obsolete, either. Nor will they give the child a hyper-inflated sense of Self.

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February 24, 2010 at 6:37 pm
Sarah G.
There were some seriously fruity tootie, crunchy granola names in my school. It was in Vermont/New Hampshire and I theorized it was where all the hippies washed up.
Sky, Birch, Zepher, and Muffin.
As for our children’s names- well we have Jacob, Nathaniel, Max and Rebecca. All after various ancestors and rather old fashioned (Well maybe not Max- but it’s a good strong name and was his paternal great grandfather).
February 24, 2010 at 6:46 pm
Robbo
Old Testament works just fine, too. But try and stay away from Holofernes.
February 24, 2010 at 7:11 pm
the gripping hand
When we were contemplating names for The Young Master, we seriously thought about Marius. Saner heads prevailed. For a whole load of snark on the subject, check out http://www.notwithoutmyhandbag.com/babynames/.
February 24, 2010 at 7:51 pm
Robbo
Warning to all: Before you click on GH’s link, for Heaven’s sake put down your coffee!!
February 24, 2010 at 9:03 pm
jen
That baby names link is a classic. I’ve had it in my sidebar for years and I did visit when I was pregnant both time to be reminded of the idiocy in naming that is out there.
Our rule of thumb was to not select a name in the top 20 for either sex, but we were open to family, biblical, classic names. Hence, we ended up with Jesse Andrew, who is named for my father and a paternal grandfather, and Molly, whose first name is original to the family but I think classic and a middle name that is her paternal grandmother’s.
February 25, 2010 at 12:21 am
Sister
I assume it is me to whom you were referring. No rock. No hyperventilating. I’m comfable wif dat. It’s not like I named them Cinnamon and Parsely or something. They are nice old names. Largely family names. I am good.
February 25, 2010 at 1:40 am
Jordana
I’m definitely a bit more fanciful for the girls than the boys around here, but every single name I’ve used has been also used by European royalty. Not that that was actually a pre-requisite. I don’t believe in making up names, but that doesn’t mean I want them to be on the top twenty list either.
And George doesn’t make the Robbo approved boy list? You are tough to please!
One of many problems with being pregnant with my sixth child is that I have run out of names. I’ve used all my favorites and and a couple that I hadn’t even put on the early lists. I may have to weaken and let Justin has his St. John, if this is a boy.
February 25, 2010 at 3:34 am
mothe
Cartoon in a New Yorker of a few years back: Jane and Tarzan are sitting together on a jungle limb. Jane, obviously in the last trimester, says, “Okay, okay, if it’s a boy, we’ll call it Boy, then. But if it’s a girl, I want Mackenzie.”
February 25, 2010 at 6:38 am
B.B.
We were very fortunate to find the name Chay, which fulfilled several wishes: it is unique, but not full-blown gonzo weird; it is of Celtic origin, and it honors my late father: Chay is a Scottish nickname for Charles.
February 25, 2010 at 10:44 am
GroovyVic
I was still working when I was pregnant with Son. I was finishing up with an older lady (I worked in a credit union) and I got up from my desk to help her out of her chair and such, and of course she noticed my apparent condition. She asked what names Husband and I had picked, to which I answered “Matthew if it’s a boy, Kathryn if it’s a girl.”
The lady was shocked! She said “What nice, old-fashioned names! I like them!”
I guess she assumed that since I was young (29 is young?) that I’d chosen something a little less traditional. Oh well.
There’s a little girl named Twylah in Daughter’s Kindergarten class. That’s a name you don’t hear all that often.
February 25, 2010 at 2:52 pm
Titus
I’m going to be just fine with Robbo’s short list, although I will add that a list that short 1) doesn’t leave room for many middle names, 2) seems to be heavily influenced by the author’s anglophilia, and 3) might have to be adjusted for personal use depending on name frequency within a given family. I think if you widen the cultural antecedents just slightly, Leopold and Sebastian, e.g., become permissible. And what about Paul? Can’t say that’s off the rails.
February 25, 2010 at 2:53 pm
Titus
Oh, fiddlesticks—foiled by html tags. My apologies for the bad formatting.
February 25, 2010 at 4:33 pm
Robbo
Oh, I say nothing of middle names, about which I am far quirkier in my tastes – indeed, how could I when the eldest gel has a family surname from six generations back and the ten year old gel carries one of her maternal great-grandfather’s given name in that slot? Indeed, if we’d had a boy I was lobbying hard for Robert MacMillan Port-Swiller in honor of another family connection (with James Tiberius Port-Swiller a close second). That also brings up the frequency of use issue, btb: we get around it in my family – I’m the fourth Robert in a row – by assigning different middle names.
Yes, I am an Anglophile in given names as in many other things. (There are some Mediterranean names that I love – like Massimo – which would be ridiculous clapped on a Northern European Celt.) George, Henry and Edward are all perfectly fine names, imho, but just not to my taste. Beyond that, I also have nothing against Paul – or Luke or Matthew or Timothy or Thomas. Andrew is a good name, too. As I say, results may vary.
February 25, 2010 at 4:41 pm
Robbo
Oh, and let’s be nice here: Mr. B.B. is entitled to due respect as well and we ought to keep this discussion at a general level without going after each other’s particular choices within broadly-defined limits here.
Spirit of good fellowship and all that.
(Now, if Mr. B.B. had named The Lad “Dew-point” or “Event-Horizon” or “Mork” or “HopeNChange”, it would be a different matter……
February 26, 2010 at 12:40 am
Sister
Jordana… You. Are. Pregnant. With. Your. SIXTH. Child?
February 26, 2010 at 2:54 am
Jordana
Sister,
Yup, I’m expecting number six. Some of us run in to a wee bit of a problem when we convert to Catholicism and aren’t good at NFP.
February 26, 2010 at 5:50 am
B.B.
Thank you, Robbo. I’ll refrain from the response I was sorely tempted to post, in your requested “Spirit of Good Fellowship”.
February 26, 2010 at 10:57 am
GroovyVic
Mork?! Loving it!
March 8, 2010 at 1:46 pm
Ed the Roman
re the link, “the horror…the horror.”
And the results are in on what happens to the unusually named. There is a positive correlation between a boy’s having an unusual name and his developing a habit of being arrested or named as a suspect or person of interest in a crime. It’s not a huge correlation, but it’s there.